Untitled 12172016 (Lassoing Brandon)

17 Dec


This painting contains a lot of passion and energy because it was painted as I was reflecting on some of the struggles my 12 year-old son Brandon is having.  Brandon is a special kid but he’s been through a lot in the past 5-6 years.  He is the first-born of 3 siblings and spent almost 3 years with his mom and I by himself when he was born.

Brandon has lived in 5 different places in his short 12 years.  Three of those places because of work related transfers when I was still married to his mom.  Once because of divorce and his newest home because of his mother’s remarriage.  He is a creative, deeply feeling young man with a heart that loves deeply and cares for others.

But his heart is really struggling.  Right now he lives about 40 minutes from my home with my second wife and her two kids.  The move for Brandon involved a new house, a new school, a whole new set of friends, and a whole new step family including 4 new step siblings on top of his 2 natural sibs, the transition has been so tough on him and he has been expressing a lot of pain about it lately.

This week a paper he wrote at school got flagged by his teacher and sent to the school counselor who shared it with his mother and I.  It is both a beautiful and heart-breaking expression of honest pain like I’ve never read before.  He has a beautiful heart and mind and every instinct wants to run to him, wrap him up, and hold on tight until it doesn’t hurt anymore.

Back to this painting, it is untitled but after looking long and hard at it to day I gave it the alternate title, “Lassoing Brandon.”  On the bottom right there appears to be a person diving into something arms outstretched head first into whatever it is.  I see that image as me diving into the abyss of my son’s sorrow.  On the left side there is a black streak that kind of looks like a lasso.  I want to swoop in and rescue him from all this pain and make it better, as any loving parent would.

I realize all I can do is meet him in it and be there for him and help give him constructive ideas about facing and using his pain to help others and grow forward in his life.  I don’t always share the back story of my paintings but I had to let you all know what motivated this one.

5 Responses to “Untitled 12172016 (Lassoing Brandon)”

  1. davisbrotherlylove December 18, 2016 at 8:02 am #

    Your energy in this one really comes across, Eli.The composition seems like a three-cell film strip to me, reading it from top to bottom or bottom to top, with one of the characters emerging from the bottom cell. I really like this.

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    • said-simply December 22, 2016 at 12:37 pm #

      Jack thanks so much for your insightful feedback. I picked up on the three movements feeling too & believe it does read from top to bottom. Thanks again for your helpful & kind comment!

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  2. Beauty Along the Road December 23, 2016 at 1:49 am #

    It is so difficult to see our children go through inevitable pain. Maybe your son would like some kind of creative expression (painting, sculpting, writing, music) to externalize what he is going through?

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